you're right, it is confusing, but once you get the hang of it, it does help explain stuff. I have T in a little while, but i'll come back later with a book suggestion or something. when I was doing this, I would yell out, "Bad object!" (like "bad dog!") whenever I caught myself doing something that wasn't the best choice for myself. That is, I was pleasing someone else by making that choice, someone who did not truly have my best interests at heart. Like a parent who just wants you to mindlessly obey, instead of learn to make good decisions.