It does sound pretty demanding of other people (only basing this on what you've said obviously). People are generally fairly capable of cluing in to what we need if we just give them enough of our trust to give them the time to act on their own. Clearly that isn't true all of the time, and some people remain completely clueless. But with your T for instance, what would happen if you sat back and allowed her to decide for herself what perhaps you might need? Is it possible you are demanding what you believe you "need" but you actually might be missing something that other people actually see you need and in fact dismissing others' suggestions that could really be helpful to you? (Again, just guessing here.)