My T, through transference, has modeled and therefore helped heal, what a loving, caring father-daughter relationship should be. He has helped me uncover, and walk through, SA memories, and led me to ultimate healing. He has helped me uncover deeply hidden shame, without being judgmental, and again, helped me heal, to the point that I know can say I love myself, and find worth in myself as a person and human being. As a borderline, my feelings are sometimes all over the place - he validates my feelings while gently helping me to see that there are more healthy alternatives.

Also, I don't have anyone in my life that can talk me down off the ledge after an episode of SI, or many times when I've been contemplating SI, and he's been able to interrupt the cycle of self harm.

All that being said, I have to add that my husband of 37 years runs a VERY close second to my T in terms of being caring and supportive. No, he doesn't have the professional training and/or know what to do psychologically, but he tries very hard and is tremendously supportive and loving. He's my rock - always has been, always will be, long after T is gone.