So she was on time, even though by your perspective she was still late. You seem to have been able to talk about some abuse issues and did some valuable work according to your desciption. Your appointment is set for two weeks away at 10:00. You don't trust this T because of a couple of late appointments and her appearing unkempt at your last appointment. If you don't think you can get past your problems with what you feel is inconsistency, yes you might should look for another T, but I still get this gut feeling that this isn't about being a few minutes late or her physical appearance. What makes you so afraid of her? Will she ever be able to stand independently as trustworthy as your therapist, or will she forever be held in the shadow of your other T's? I don't know. I just wonder if this has more to do with not really wanting to give up your therapy relationships with your old T's than anything -- sort of the no matter what she does, it will never be quite right syndrome because she isn't . . . . Might be worth exploring.