Okay...WI,
Was this the first date with this second fella or a second meeting with him...I'm confused.
I can tell you from "vast" dating experience, that someon who mistreats wait staff is a big red flag...even if he thinks he's being funny. (I could write a book about this kind of stuff!)....One first meeting at Uno's a fella cried over his Surf and Turf over his ex girlfriend and then got so mad when I shook hands with him and didn't invite him up to my home that he wrote me several emails about cutting up fat men in his bathtub! Really!
Seriously, WI, be very discerning and selective, remembering the lovely and intelligent woman you are while meeting these men. I liken the Internet dating phenomena to throwing a hook into the vast ocean and pulling out who knows what kind of monster. Maybe you'll hook a gem, but in the meantime, be very selective!
Patty