I cannot tell you how many times I've come to this thread and wanted to post...and have nothing enlightening

It has something to do with having realistic expectations of others ... remembering that people are human, make mistakes, have their own histories, stories, agendas, etc. Trust takes time, blah blah blah.

Seriously I have no idea myself.

(my father once told me he has very low / to no expectations of people so he doesn't get angry or upset ) <---- maybe that is the key