That is a sad story. I used to have GREAT Kegel muscles and I used to be able to bring my then husband to orgasm without his moving, by using my muscles alone. All along I had urinary stress incontinence - I am structurally malformed. Then we separated, and I stopped practicing, completely forgetting that these are not just genital, these are URO-genitary muscles. It has been three years. Now I resumed practicing but I cannot squeeze well any more. This makes me very sad.