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Originally Posted by rainboots87
Over time though, I understood that she just wants me to be prepared for the reality that it will be hard and I will feel lonely and struggle. For me to really acknowledge and embrace that instead of just expecting that I'll handle it and breaking down when I (inevitably) struggle. I've also been pushed to rely on and confide in other people more instead of shouldering the burden all by myself. I know for me, the more I put on a facade for others, the harder I break down behind closed doors, so maybe there is something to having others there as support.
It might be hard to hear what your T is saying, but I'd encourage you to see how she just wants you (presumably) to be as prepared as possible. I wish you the best in your transition and I'm right there with ya!
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What you're saying makes a lot of sense.
I have an issue with letting people in and reaching out for help at times when I'm struggling because 1. I feel like a failure 2. I feel like I've let myself down and others down 3. I have trust issues.
But it does get tiring trying to keep it all together.
I guess the experience with my T yesterday also made me realize that I need to tweak my plan a bit and that's okay because things change. It's not set in stone. Things can be added, taken away, or adjusted. And even the things that are hard to hear (Things T said, for example), are good eye openers, so if by some chance that "What If" scenario does take place or something similar occurs, I won't be in shock and I'll be prepared to tackle it.