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Originally Posted by Perna
I was struck by the above; if you tell someone else something important to you, they should pick up on that and "care", either in a very supportive way or it should bother them, or they should. . .something. If you can't tell, if they just "didn't seem", then it would strike me as their not paying very good attention to me. A quick, "No, that's all right, babe" or similar would not do it for me. I would be surprised if something difficult for me were that easy for the other person.
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Oh dear, my wording seems to have been bad yet again. >.< It was more of an, "It doesn't matter to me, I love you anyway and we can work through this," kind of don't care. He was supportive and very proud of me for telling him.
About the rest of your message-
you're dead on. My self-esteem is lower than low, and I need to try to work on that. I think a break from each other would be a good thing for me (and him as well) so I can regroup. He's going on vacation with his family, so I'm going to take this opportunity to sit down and really think about what I want and need. Thank you so much. <3
RomanSunburn-
First off, I love your avatar (is that what they call them here? D
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Second, your post was probably the most helpful for me. I was thinking along the same lines as you were with the "he wants to have his cake and eat it too." I did end up having a serious talk with him, but we didn't get very far. It was more the fact that we were both very emotional and crying and had to take a step back for the night. He said he still wants to be with me, but I think I need to seriously think about whether or not I want to be with him. I was a bit afraid to check back here and look at the responses because of the first one I got. I was beginning to wonder if the way I was feeling was completely out of line and that I was crazy for thinking he did something wrong at all. I appreciate your response so very, very much. Thank you.
Leed-
Thank God I'm not the only one who would be devastated.
As I said, we didn't get very far in our conversation, so I'm going to talk to him again sometime soon. I'm not one that really beats around the bush, so he knows that if I catch him in any lie again, we're through. I intend on following through, too. Thank you so much, dear. You're very helpful.
Oh dear... serious conversation time for me. Wish me luck, guys. Thank you so much for your support. I'm not much farther along than I was when I first posted, but I'll do what you said, RomanSunburn, and I'll keep venting.
God bless, all of you. <3 Thank you so much.