(((Leed))) - so very sorry this is happening to your son, you and those who love him. Thank you for wanting to help others and warn them about the damaging effects of alcohol. This must be so hard, yet you're a strong person and you give great advice - I feel you'll get through this no matter how this turns out. If he survives I hope he'll stop.

Trigger: discussions of sexual abuse and suicide.





I was the youngest in my family and a 13/14 yr difference with my older brothers. I remember my 2nd oldest brother drinking when I was kid and he was still living at home. One time I got up early to get cereal in the kitchen and he was passed out on the kitchen floor with his underwear below his knees - I tip toed back to bed because it was so awkward. We lost our dad when I was 2 (cancer) and he was 15 - a crucial age. He also had low self esteem but he was smart and never realized his full potential. I found out in my 30's that both brothers were SA when they were boys by my uncle....so he had crosses to bare. His outlet was alcohol and he remained that way until he passed. A few times he quit but as he approached 60 he showed signs of alcohol related dementia.

His wife remained with him for her own dysfunctional reasons but they were having problems. One day she couldn't take it and went to stay in a hotel for a couple days. He also had a back injury from an fall at his job and was taking oxycontin - a killer IMO. He bought a large bottle of whiskey and drank himself to death. Alcohol destroyed his life and I know he was always trying to escape the demons. I loved him but no one could tell him what to do. You and your son are in my prayers ((Leed)).