My grandma's death yesterday triggered me for various reasons, and I talked to T about it today. I was REALLY beating myself up for feeling triggered in the middle of such a sad situation...feeling really self-centered and stupid...and T helped me see how that was making the situation worse, and reminded me to be gentle with myself. He told me that it made sense that I felt triggered, and that it was okay. And that helped me remember that for me, one really important thing that helps me when I'm triggered is to just acknowledge it, and accept it.

Once I remove all of the self-judgement, if I'm in a real life situation, I try to get really present. I notice how my feet feel on the floor, listen for six sounds, try to connect with someone. Being triggered tends to send me right into my own head, and it helps if I can pull myself out.

Usually, if I read something online that triggers me, I just leave the thread and stay away until I feel better. Being angry isn't really a problem for me...I don't tend to get angry very much at all...but being scared is a real issue for me, and I've had LOTS of my own threads deleted out of fear. That's still something I'm working on.

Thanks, Perna. Good (and timely!) questions