Hi deon1,

What have your doctors said about your difficulty reaching orgasm?

Have you been physically checked out to rule out any possible physical causes? While the situation is extremely frustrating, perhaps trying to put less pressure onto yourself to reach O is what's needed.

Btw, do you have any physical disabilities? Is your doctor willing to try viagra, or some other pill to increase sensitization? My bf is paralyzed from the chest down, and has run into the very same difficulty. I've tried very hard many times to please him physically, but it seems impossible. Unfortunately, I get my pleasure from bringing pleasure to him ~ so it's a crazy merry-go-round!

Do talk with your physical doctor, if you haven't already, to rule out any physical causes for the lack of reaching orgasm. Another tip: maybe a little more variety would help you. Gentle bondage, food sex, massages, more foreplay, and less pressure for you to please her might help you.

Best wishes to you ~ take care!