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Originally Posted by goldshift
.Her reaction to other incidents was clear cut but it was just to the parental issue that I got the impression that she thoughts that I was at fault. The question came up again and again i.e. this notion of blame fault responsibility etc. She never gave any definitre answer over the course of 50mins. This led me to believe that she may have been apportioning guilt to me.
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Maybe the parent/child dynamic is too complex for her to have a quick and clean reaction? I've had experiences similar to you, though.. where the legacy of the dysfunction I grew up with served to guide my impressions of what others - especially my therapist - thought. If I didn't get a crystal clear reaction, I "read into it" all the messages I'd grown up with. What I've learned to do, though, is to just ask! Tell her how you interpreted it, and acknowledge that if your interpretation is incorrect, you need help adjusting it.