butterflying, I don't want to hijack Asiablue's thread. There are others who feel the way I do too. I hope that we CAN be helped by therapy. It's not black or white. Some of the emotional hunger can be relieved by a T because they do act like a parent. My T believes I did not have a secure attachment to my mother, so she is providing it for me. At the same time, she's encouraging my independence. It may be taking me a long time, but I have more understanding of my past now, and of my needs. I agree it's time to accept them and stop making my T so important. I never said I don't agree. It just makes me hurt inside but I will do it anyway. Slowly, not all at once. We all have to find our own way to fulfill the emotional hunger.