when i came out, i thought i would start with my brother who was, i thought, the most liberal member of my family. He wept. It threw me for such a loop that my plans of going down a list informing everybody blew right out the window. I started telling individuals when it came up/seemed appropriate. . . You could come out in the safety of the groups if you were feeling Xena-ish..... if you know what i mean-ish. coming out feels soooo much better after it's done. the closet is a weighty burden and the air very stale....... . you just never know how people will take it. . . .Be strong, good luck!!!