Yes, ECHOES. I love Necessary Losses and knew you were describing how she describes that feeling of bliss before I read your whole post! Viorst says we all are looking for that "original" bliss where there is no I or we, and we are the milk and the milk is the Mommy, etc. She says it much better than I botched it up here.

I agree with you about how important attachment and separateness are. If we didn't do them adequately when we were little, we have problems later.