Hello, I'm new here. I thought that this might be the right place to ask how to help my brother, who has a number of BPD symptoms but unfortunately no diagnosis.

He's 27 years old now. He hates his life, always says, "f*** my life" or "I'm miserable and will always be miserable," he's talked about suicide.

The worst part are his rages that come out of nowhere, at least that's what it seems like, and they get so intense that he destroys property, bangs on things repeatedly til his hand bleeds. He refuses any help, saying that help is impossible or that he doesn't need it, depending on his emotional state.

He's depressed, lonely, grieving (our father passed away 6 months ago), he feels guilt, I know that for a fact, he has low self-esteem, is very introverted and seems to think that this introversion is a disability. Like he can't change anything. He has major trouble with intimate relationships. He seems to crave them but just cannot seem to connect on an emotional level or he feels unable to open up to anyone. Hates talking about anything.

He has repeatedly told us that he thinks we, his family, don't give a crap about him. He says that nobody has ever told him that they love him, which is true in our family, growing up, we didn't really express out feelings.

All of us have tried getting him to agree to some help but he refuses. I've tried talking to him about getting help since I myself have Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia and GAD and I have a psychiatrist and am on medication and so was my dad for depression before he died but my brother just doesn't want help.

He gambles constantly and when he loses he goes into his rages. I've called hospitals and mental heath centers and helplines and the police trying to figure out how to get him help because he will never ask for it himself and out family is being torn apart by his destructive behavior.

I don't know what to do anymore. My sister just leaves the house because she can't listen to him anymore and my mom is away on vacation for the first time in 20 years and now that my dad has died, it is just me dealing with him and my own anxiety.

One police officer gave me his number and told me to call if he has another episode where he is causing damage to property or if he threatens others or himself, which he has done today, but I am just too scared to make the call.

I trust this police officer, I explained to him that I don't want my brother arrested or shot by accident by overzealous cops, as that has happened many times here and he told me that if I called they would take him to a hospital and keep him there 48 hours, I think, for observation.

I'm just worried that if I do call the police and he is taken away, what will happen after 48 hours. What if they let him go home? He'll be furious at me and I'm scared of him, well his rages.

We have tried repeatedly to get him to voluntarily seek help but to no avail. I feel as though getting him committed is the only way.

Am I doing something wrong? Am I sensitive enough to his feelings? I don't know how to deal with him anymore. I am walking on eggshells.

Please help. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.