When my mother passed away a couple months ago, I had an appt 2 days after her death.
i wrote down on paper I had just lost my mother and i was going to cancel but figured Id had to come for comfort. I handed it to her as i could not bring it up or i would have broken down.
I have also written a half dozen poems about my life and feelings inside and read aloud to her.
i figure any communication you give is accepting to the therapist.
But what do i know...I'm half crazy anyways...

P.S. It was a good experiance. Good luck.