I read over his messages today, with a much clearer head space.

From what he has written, he has stated he cannot handle the commitment of a proper relationship or friendship, he simply cannot handle the whole emotional side; hence when it got too difficult he would just need his space.

It all makes so much sense, and I feel I understand him now. I want to contact him to let him know that, briefly and then just to say that I will still respect his wishes for space, just wanted him to realise while it has hurt both of us, I understand it all now.

I have no idea what to do though. I fear he thinks I just don't understand him, and want him to know I have come to the realisation of what it is like for him; but don't know how or when I should go about it?