He said initially that he agreed we had to discuss all of this in person, but that he was not able to do that right now and would let me know when he was.

I want to text him so he KNOWS that I understand him, as I am worried that he may be thinking I'm not, and part of his decision about whether we can still remain friends could be based on that misconception.

So no, we have not spoken, it has only been a few days though.