maybe she has some sort of social anxiety. how about you or someone else that you trust will get the work done suggesting that they go door to door with her.

Age has nothing to do with if someone needs to sleep and so on. Im 43 and at times have slept the day away because of a nightmare filled night and I can tell you from experience going door to door with my child when he was doing fundraising when he was home was enough to send me upchucking all night long the night before having to walk my child around this block to hand out fliers about the candy his class would soon be selling that next week or two.

If this "lard *****" as you call her has a social anxiety no amount of getting upset or talking to her to get her to do her part is going to help if anything it will force her to take to her bed more often.

quietly take her aside when no one else can interfer or cause her discomfort and find out very gently what is going on. and in the future for fundraising work with her instead of against her problem for example assigning her a part in the activity where she has minimum contact with the public but yet something that she can handle on her own or with help and when dealing with things like going door to door set up a couple teams and have her buddied up with someone. that way if something happens where her anxiety kicks in she does not take to her bed because everything rests on her head.

Im not saying you shouldnt feel like you are because everyone is entitled to how they are feeling and I know from running groups and being in groups that its frustrating when we encounter someone in groups that seems to be not living up to their end of things but if the situation was reversed I certainly would not want to be thought of as an unappropiate name and so on just because of my mental problems. Hey Im in the group for a reason right?

hang in there. She will probably come around with some TLC and understanding which is what all human beings have a right to.