((ktbelle))),

Unlovable? Ok, how about thinking about this another way instead of labeling yourself that way.

Say a family goes out and gets a puppy and brings it home. At first the puppy is cute and cuddly but it grows up and depends on whomever owns it to teach it "how" to be a part of the family and have manners and it also depends on that family for excercise and love. But the family doesn't like that it chews as it's teeth are coming in and it just pees when it needs to and it runs around the house wanting to stretch it's growing muscles. The family is too busy to "train" the puppy and take it for walks as well and the puppy ends up stuck in the garage all day and barely gets loved or trained and whenever it doesn't magically just know how to behave, it is beaten and abused. IS THAT PUPPY UNLOVABLE?

Every day so many animals are abused and neglected, DOES THAT MEAN THEY ARE UNLOVABLE?

I have recued several horses/ponies over the years and often they were neglected and abused because no one invested any time in them to train them etc. It never meant they were "unlovable" because once I rescued them and spent time training them, THEY WERE VERY LOVABLE. But I have seen many horses abused over my years of being around them, and IT WAS ALWAYS BECAUSE OF THE ABUSIVE PEOPLE THAT OWNED THEM and never the animal's fault.

What about all the children that are in the system with no parents? For one reason or another they were left to fend for themselves from the time they were born, DOES THAT MEAN THESE CHILDREN WERE UNLOVABLE? If an unborn child is developing in the womb of a drug addicted mother, IS THAT CHILD UNLOVABLE?

You have to understand something here, THERE ARE LOTS OF PEOPLE WHO ARE DISRESPECTFUL OF OTHERS AND THEY JUST DON'T CARE. The people that you have experienced in your life were people who were ignorant and they never learned how to respect other people. There are a lot of people out there that "ONLY CARE ABOUT THEMSELVES". And this doesn't mean that "you" are unlovable.

BUT, before you go and decide to "hate" other people, remember the puppy that "never got trained" because that is what happens with a lot of people too. We have lots of children that do not get nurtured right, and many people that "are disrespectful" grew to be that way because they "lacked training like the puppy that was locked up in the garage". And it has nothing to do with "you being lovable" and everything to do with others just not knowing how to respect and love others.

We are all deserving of love, you are no exception. But you are not being fair to yourself if you judge your self worth because of the people you have encountered that are ignorant and just don't know how to love and respect others.

So what do you do? You learn how to love and respect "you" and you "rise above" knowing that you "are every bit as lovable and a puppy, or a pony or even a child that can be neglected even though they are worthy of being loved". You have to begin with "loving yourself" and "learning how to take care of yourself correctly and then you can share that with others". But you have to understand, there are a lot of people who simply do not know how to love and respect anyone and often they were just never taught themselves.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes