Pat, from the way you come across in here and on the phone, I have a hard time believing you'd look or sound like an idiot. I think a big part of it is finding the kind of people who don't have the same personality style as we do - two "shy at first, but warm up quickly" types are probably going to bore the pants off of each other (like my "date" yesterday) if there isn't a common interest to draw conversation from.