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Originally Posted by Perna
What was going on that you had that thought that a glass of wine sounded nice? That's a very subjective thought?
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Nothing special was going on. I'd been fairly relaxed all day, had a nice lunch with a friend, and we stopped in at a Target to pick up a few things. She bought some beer and I saw the wine and just thought that I wanted a glass. I was embarrassed to say anything to my friend, because she knows how I feel about drinking alcohol and how much it usually bothers me.
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Originally Posted by Perna
Too, I was interested in your saying you bought a "really good" bottle of wine; I drink wine, will be buying a bottle for my dinner I'm giving next weekend but I have no clue!  I have to take other people's say so for what is "good" and my opinion on if it is good or not (I am buying red wine and don't care for read as much as I do "blush" or a sweet white, like white zinfandel) often differs. |
When I was in college and just graduated, I learned to appreciate a good wine from some friends, and it was a "safe" drink because my father rarely drank wine and I could hold a glass and sip it for hours. (Huh...didn't realize it was a "safe" drink until I typed that.) So, my local upscale grocery store has a nice liquor section with a "wine steward"...I asked for what I wanted - a sweet red, not too dry, and he suggested a few options for me to select from.
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Originally Posted by Perna
If it had happened to me, I would take it that maybe I was ready to work on this "issue", my father's drinking and my feelings about others drinking and my reactions? This looks to me like a very clear cut picture/instance/issue? It could be poster child for thinking about one's responses, whether they are one's own or carried over from childhood, etc., it's easy to "see" and work with? So, it could just be your unconscious messing with you and trying to figure out how to move you in a healthy direction (looking at your responses to day-to-day happenings, seeing where you are, want to be, what's healthy versus unhealthy - like your T wants to discuss next session) kind of like one's dream images can?
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Interesting point. Yes, maybe I am ready to work on this issue. It was a single instance that is very reflective of my overall feelings.
Of course, I still feel like a total freak for over reacting so much. And my T would tell me not to label, that I had a reaction to events, and then she'd ask me who's voice I'm hearing and who's yard stick I'm measuring by to determine that I was being a "freak" and that I "over" reacted.