I'm pretty sure my T was not comfortable with me because I was defensive and brittle and rarely let her psychically near me, never mind letting her feel comfortable. We use to joke I was like a car on a highway suddenly taking an off ramp (without signaling), using the cloverleaf and coming back up onto the highway a little later to try again with whatever had scared me off I was good at giving myself time delays :-)

I'm comfortable with my husband because he's "warm, fun, and friendly" (my chosen 3 reasons why I like him). I would have loved my T to have perceived me that way, "approachable"?