I am not sure why your partner reacted the way she did but you did nothing wrong. Reactions like that are why so many of us "hide" or choose not to share. I really think that some people(maybe your partner?) do not know how to deal with information like this and can sometimes be very insensitive. Unless you are a survivor, I think it is hard for people to know just how terrible it is. I hope you are not too hard on yourself - sharing can be very healing if you find supportive people. Your partner's reaction is not about you, it is about her. She seems to be more concerned for herself than she does about you. I have found safe people to share with and I have chosen not to share with people who don't seem to be able to offer support. You are an amazing person with a lot of courage and I would like to wish you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY as well as encourage you to remain true to yourself.