I gotta agree with Hankster on this one. I didn't like it either. Can't imagine my therapist saying something like that. Therapeutic progress isn't something that has a timeline. It's not like getting the weeds pulled - where you can just see them and pull them, and can reasonably "try harder" to speed it up. Therapy is so complex, and progress depends on so many elusive things.. including feeling like your therapist is in your corner.

My therapist also initially seemed to think I should get farther sooner. She tried to push. I dug in my heels. When I finally talked to her about it, I explained to her that I felt I *had* made progress, and that it was taking place within the therapeutic relationship. I reminded her that she'd told me in the beginning that she takes the client's lead. I told her that I didn't know why I couldn't make the jump she wanted so badly for me to make, but that I'd never get there if she kept pushing me... that when enough healing took place, I thought I'd probably get to the next spot on my own without having to be pushed. It was one of those incredible moments in therapy. She heard me. She *saw* what I was saying. She agreed that my instincts about it were important. She recognized that her pushing me was not helpful. She thanked me for letting her know.

So.. I think you ought to talk to her, and plainly tell her how her words came across to you.