Thanks for understanding, MTW-I know lots of us here experience the same thing occasionally, unfortunately.
Confused, when it comes to hurt feelings I am not comfortable asking why because it puts the other person on the spot. Being assertive in these cases may only make future contact uncomfortable.
Cocoa, fortunately I don't put it all out there for all of the "religious" people. My pastor is someone I think of as a friend, but not the kind of friend that you share deep secrets with. I definitely don't ask for guidance-that's what my t is for.
Thanks everyone!
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