Oh, I agree . . . religion, politics, schooling, lifestyles ARE the big stuff, like you said.

I'm biased. I have a negative view of men, in general. But, there are some men that are the exception to my rule. My hubby is a good example. We disagree on so many things. I like being able to argue with him (if he lets me). Religion and politics are two areas that we are very similar. Good thing. Although I'd still probably be with him if we disagreed completely on those issues . . . I'm sure it would make difficult some things, especially how to raise our child. In many other aspects, my hubby and I are opposites . . . yin and yang . . . his weaknesses are things i'm good at and my weaknesses are his strengths. together we can do anything!

Maybe find a middle-ground kind of guy? Someone that doesn't have strong feelings about religion and politics but respects your feelings?

there really isn't a perfect relationship out there. if you find a person that respects you and takes care of you and loves you unconditionally . . . then you've hit the jackpot. all the other stuff can be worked on together.

i tend to fall for guys that want to be my friend first. he should want me to be happy. if a relationship develops later, then you know it was based on solid ground.