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Originally Posted by Hope-Full
I have never had the privilege of emailing T, but I can imagine it would be hard to stop once you've started. What Butterflies said, about writing letters to your T? I do that when I need to feel connected to her. I write her a letter in my journal telling her what I want to tell her, and then often times I'll spend some time afterward thinking about what she would say to me. If I can't come up with an answer, I might share part of that letter with T the next time I see her, and get her answer. Overall, though, I do find just the act of writing to T very helpful in staying connected.
Rainbow - you're doing such hard work and it is SO healthy for you to not have that instant email connection - that quick fix, so to speak. Each week that you go through without emailing will make it a little bit easier and soon you'll feel so much stronger!
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Thanks so much, Hope-Full. Yes, I realize it's better for me not to email. I confessed to T today that I usually printed out my emails, usually about 3 each week, and sometimes they were long ones, and reread them many times. It felt like she and I were together all week long that way.
Not so healthy for me. I posted in my thread about my session today that she told me that she thinks about me even when I don't email. That is going to make it easier for me I think.
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Originally Posted by Perna
When I decided to quit writing my T, I tried to start anticipating (with pleasure) the actual being with her and talking with her and how I was going to use and enjoy that. You know how you look forward to something you want?
Granted, I started a new journal for myself/my eyes only to document the "test" of not writing her (I arbitrarily decided to test it out for 4 weeks or 6, or a couple months, something like that) and then, with her going to be away for the next two weeks (making the test even bigger), that session I left my new journal in the office when I left! LOL, talk about unsubtle hints from my unconscious. She saw, found it, and kept it for me, of course, and we talked about it when she got back; a warm, fun, funny discussion. She said she had been uncertain what to do with it, since she was going away, where to put it so she'd remember to bring it when she got back.
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That is kind of funny. I hope you used another journal for the time she was away!
I always look forward to seeing T, email or no emails!
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Originally Posted by Luce
I'm glad you are coping with your feelings of loss about the email situation. Feeling sad and depressed about things we lose is hard - it is natural and normal, but hard. Embrace these feelings! You lost something that you enjoyed and liked, and you are grieving for them. Those feelings of loss are not something that you need to 'fix'. This is where you are, and this is what you feel right now, and the feelings are the normal and expected reaction to the loss of something we want or need.
Remember that after the pain comes acceptance, and peace.
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I always love the way you write, Luce. Thank you for your support. After my session I cried like I was grieving and I felt somewhat better after that. In fact, I felt a lot better!
