Yes, I do lots of planning. I always have a bunch of questions stored in my head to ask her. I always think I'm just going to use the hour to pick her brain.

And then I get there and she starts the session off with something unexpected, and my "script" gets thrown out of the window.

One thing that I like about my therapist is that she NEVER asks how I'm doing. I don't know if this is intentional or not, but it is a huge relief not to have to hear it. It is way too easy to automatically say "I'm fine", if only because the truth is too complicated. Plus, I don't like starting the session with serious stuff. I need a little chit-chat to loosen me up, I think.