wi_fighter, I'm kind of in the same boat. I'm not seeking a guy right now, but I will be, and I like the strong, muscular handsome types, too. Yes, looks aren't the most important thing, but I do believe physical attraction is important. Anyway, I need to get my butt in gear, too. I know there are diet and exercise "clubs" and groups online, where you can kind of "team up" with a partner or do it with the group; even though you're working by yourself, you have the support of someone who's also doing it. You can also find groups, places for classified ads, and other sites online to find partners, not to mention in real life. I'd do a little research for you, but I'm short on time at the moment. If I get time later, and you want me to, I'll see what I can find for you. Just let me know.