if it's creepy, if it's "not right", if it's definitely not something they would have done on the Brady Bunch, it's abuse. Don't worry about CPS's definition - children die under their definition of suitable care. They are more defining what is the most wrong you have to do before you lose your kids - what kind of standard is that to live down to? What is the least you can get away with doing? Not sure anybody gets into heaven (or gets a promotion) with THAT attitude!