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Originally Posted by Jannaku
Hi there. Sounds a bit NPD to me. I'm married to one and I can see the similarities especially not taking blame, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, denegrating you, etc. Biggest trait = does he believe 100% that he is superior/better than everyone else and is hypersensitive to criticism? My H certainly does and there is no question about that. All I can say is that I am really sorry to hear about all the abuse that this man has put you through. Psychological/verbal abuse is a slow insiduous way of destroying your self esteem and sanity. It's torturous and soul destroying. You are so lucky that you never progressed further in your relationship - thank goodness for that. Don't for one minute weaken and go back. You need time out to build your "self" up again and gain strength to venture forward in your life. Never regret what has happened. Consider yourself lucky - lucky that you are free from a dysfunctional relationship and a man that has never given you the love and respect you deserve. Allow yourself time to heal but I am sure that as time heals your wounds you will realise that you have made the right decision and will have the wisdom of hindsight. All the best  |
Thank you
and yes he is EXTREMELY hypersensitive to criticism. If I dared to criticize anything about him or his family he would go berzerk on me! However, he had no problem criticizing me or my family and friends constantly... He would always stress how he is NOTHING like my past relationships as he is so much better and he would tell me not to DARE compare him to my exes...I think I will be ok. He really had me fooled stated he loved me more than anyone ever had or will and I was sucked in and believed him. People kept telling me actions speak louder than words but I just couldnt accept that for I fell in love with this amazing guy but as time went on, his real self emerged and I was in love with a person that simply did not exist. It has taken me what seems like an eternity to accept this fact that this person who I thought was so amazing just isnt real. The real person I have been seeing more and more during the past year is who he really is and well..I not only dont love THAT person...I really dont even like him.