So, you can't tell the group leader or organizer or whatever what you're problem is and find out if someone is going your way? Or brainstorm another solution?

I always have this same problem with support groups. Al-Anon, I belonged to once. A couple of groups for parents of mentally ill children. Always meet on weekday evenings.

Well, I could probably find an Al-Anon group, but they're all different. The one I liked was on Tuesday evenings.