Hey. Sorry for all you are having to deal with. Also sorry transparenting made me think of transsexual as well. My H and I are not getting along and have not in many years. I know divorce is a difficult thing. I'm not sure I have the inner strength to go there. So I continue to tick along where I am the way things are. I think divorce would be an easier option then this some days. But reading things like this make me think staying is not so terrible. It is hard to know really I guess. I got 3 kids to think about to. I hope things work out for the best, not just for you but your kids to. Any words of wisdom M.