Why dont you ask to change the mood stabilizer if you dont feel depakote is working?

Making a goal and routine you can't currently accomplish wont help either. You have to break it down to very small baby steps. Like, "I will go outside and sit on my patio" or even, "I will leave my bedroom and make myself cereal" These goals aren't difficult for a person who isn't depressed, but can be so agonizing for those who are. It is a huge accomplishment to even see your health team and you should be proud of yourself. If you see a t, talk about those baby steps. You cant just go to the gym 4x a week without feeling overwhelmed. Going outside for a 10-15 min walk may seem silly but its a stepping stone.

I think you should ask for the ect now. Even if you dont get the ect, youd give the message that you want to be well.