My sex drive is stronger than my husband's too, but I really do not wait for him to take the initiative if I am in the mood and he is not. There is a lot you can do in terms of gentle touch to get his body to come alive. I have taken the attitude that in marriage my body is his and his is mine. Often when he is not in mood and I initiate sex he finds it a real turn on and he is magnificent. I really think that it is ok to take the initiative contrary to the way I was brought up when woman only waited around to service his needs. I also have taken the attitude that I will be available for him even when I am not in the mood and he is. Men have awfully fragile ego's and a simple rebuff can have a huge impact. (I learned that the hard way in m y first marriage) I determined to not let that ever happen again. Sex is fun. It is pleasurable and both partners have an obligation to meet the other's needs. You are not always going to be on the same schedule. I suspect that if he is looking at sleazy stuff on the internet though he is subverting his needs when you could be the one enjoying him

I wish you the best -- Hugs Larissa