I too think relationships are worth it in the long run, even though they can get messy and frustrationg while in the middle of them. I am not good at them for one thing and have been in several DBT groups to try to learn how to relate to people. I have been through two divorces, but I would do it all again just to have my son in my life. Even though it is scary, I am determined to keep trying and actually have a girlfriend now. I guess the point of my rantings is to not give up. Keep trying.