I agree with s4ndm4n all relationships are ultimately worth it. Even the ones that fail or ultimately end up hurting us. I remarried nearly 10 years ago after my first marriage fell apart when my husband was sleeping with the neighbor and a person who was supposed to be my friend. At the time I was so mad at men that I never wanted to see one and so hurt that one could be so unfaithful to me when I had tried so hard to be everything a wife should be. I never wanted to be hurt again but then I feel in love with the man who I married a few months later. I suppose that I could have played it safe but I am glad that I took the risk anyway. Things are a long way from perfect and our marriage has its problems sometimes. Still I am glad that I took the risk. As CS Lewis pointed out in the Four Loves, the only way to avoid being hurt is to lock yourself up in a shell and never come out, but that would not be living either. I am so much richer being with a man I love, even if he is petty, cantankerous, picky, and annoying sometimes. SO am I. My depression and mood swings make life hard for him sometimes too. I am committed to him and meeting his needs and doing so makes me happy. Still I have my own life too and he respects that and is supportive. Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all