I am struggleing with when enough is enough. I am so done. I don't know what holds me back. I have I guess what once was called battered wife syndrome. Where you are not treated well but you stay anyway. My H doesn't hit me but that is the only thing. Controlling, never wrong, perfect in everyone's eyes. He intimidates me, he lets me know I'm stupid, he puts me down in front of the kids. I keep hoping it will work out. I wish things would change. They never do. We are seeing a marriage T. It is helping some days. Other days I wonder if I am just plain old crazy for hoping and beliving it will work out. I talk to the T yesterday on the phone. More or less she said you can only do what you can do. He'll change or stay the same. YOU have to decide for you what you will be able to live with. If you've tried (and you have) there is no shame in giving up. But it takes alot to give up. I am just having a hard time deciding what to do. What is it gonna take and how much is to much. I know no one can help me really. No one can answer these questions I just need someone to talk to. I'm lonely, alone, exhausted, fed up, afraid of the future, afraid off the now. I guess I'm just a mess and I think my H likes it that way. It is to comfortable if it is predictable. I just need to know I'm not alone, or that someone else is where I am or once was where I am or it's worse to be in the unknown. What ever, I'm just I don't know.