Hopeful...
I'm glad that you were able to get out all those feelings of frustration and disappointment. You feel mentally abused because you were mentally and emotionally abused, regardless of what diagnosis he might fit. It can be easy to get into letting someone hurt you when you love and care about them. I was married for 12 years to someone who was psychologically abusive, possessive, controlling, and even cruel. It's hard to get perspective on it when you are in it and trying to please someone and show them that you care. I'm glad that you got yourself out of it now, and I agree - don't go back. I encourage you to give yourself time to get perspective, and heal yourself and your life and build up your other relationships. You can't be of help to him when he blames you for everything and won't take any responsiblity onto himself for his unhappiness.