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Aug 10, 2012, 12:08 AM
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Member Since: Aug 2012
Posts: 7
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Originally Posted by shezbut
"i said let's try the skin to skin time again without one of us falling asleep? he laughed... at least it didn't upset him. so, we did... and we did end up having sex, but once he's ready it's really hard to slow him down, so there wasn't really any exploration or learning time..."
I asked my bf this afternoon about his perspective on the situation. Since your hub is going online frequently, did that mean that your hub isn't attracted to you or "in love" with you anymore? My bf replied, "Maybe, maybe not." 
While my bf wasn't being really helpful, his response kind of surprised me. I was expecting some kind of remark about your hub getting his thrills met somewhere else. My bf quickly shook his head "no" as I pressed about this being about attraction.
Since then, I've thought about your situation many times. I think that Larissa probably got it right. Maybe your hub didn't like his ex doing ___ to him. But, your description above sounds like he is attracted to you. Maybe you're trying to romanticize too much and he just wants some hot and heavy sex. Like, "Wham, bam, thank you ma'am!" every now and then?
I haven't ever gone on any sex websites, but My ex-SIL used to be a phone sex girl actually. Weird....Anyway, there's not any slow tenderness or romance in those calls. I'd imagine the internet being the same way ~ just hard and fast. With lots of encouragement thrown into the act. "Oh baby...just like that!" I think that's what your hub is seeking from these sites. If you're comfortable doing things like that in bed, chances are good that he'll spend a lot less time and interest with others.
Something to think about.   to you!
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i have no problem with that. and i really hadn't thought about it in that way.... thanks! i'll give that a shot!!
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