because they are not really asking for advice San they are looking for someone to show them that they care from my experiences i have learned most people with this behavior are hurt by people that are closest to them over and over and they feel this is there only means of escape. I don't fully understand but, I know that i do similar things i ask for advice from more then one person doesn't mean iam going to take everyones adivce just means iam trying to get opinions from more then one person so i can form my own oppinion. I hope that helps San