Hi there...I am new to this forum but have an issue I could use advice on. I have been married for 10 years and the relationship has been going downhill for years. We do not communicate, have a terrible sex life and have just a generally unfulfilling marriage. This is partly due to me (I am a recovering alcoholic for over five years and the dynamics of our relationship changed a lot when I got sober, and honestly I am a bit of a control freak) and partly due to him (he's a workaholic, won't commit to anything, and is a poor communicator). I do not hate him, just feel indifference and feel there should be more to a marriage. Sexually I do not enjoy him touching me, although I do have a sex drive. I am ready for divorce but am financially stuck and I don't know what to do. We discussed divorce last December, but due to a family crisis, our discussions got put on the backburner and we never did anything about it. He does not want divorce at all, is very hurt. I have agreed to counseling. We also have children and I have to consider their well being. All that said, I think divorce is in our future, but it will be a few years before we will be able to afford to go through with it financially. I don't know how to continue to live like this for that time. He is a very good person and a good father, and I want what is best for him - I would love to see him find someone who can love him the way he wants to be loved. I just don't think that is me. I have started talking online with an old friend and we have been making plans to meet specifically for a weekend fling, no strings attached. I feel more alive and desired/desirable than for years, and want to go through with it but know it is not a very responsible move to make. I feel very stuck, and don't know how to handle any of this. I am a good person, my husband is a good person...but what do you do when your relationship is over and you can't get out?