I hear you! One of the ruptures I had with my T I felt the exact same way - as if someone had punched me right in the gut, very very hard. It was incredibly painful, and I was kind of devastated, actually. We worked it out, and so can you.

I admire the way you're approaching it. The whole thing is just a misunderstanding that can happen in all relationships, and this is an opportunity to practice your relationship skills! (Yeah, I know, something a T would say ) But seriously, I'm glad you're standing up and telling her how you feel. This can be fixed, and you can learn from the emotions you're feeling about this. Good luck! I think you're doing the right thing.