Dear X-rainstore, do I have your user name right? I am new to this suprt. grp. and I noticed you are having a bad time with the abuser. I am sorry for you and the exposure you are still faced with. your friend does not know the pain and feelings 1st. hand like you do. I am just begining to work with my own exposure of sexual abuse from my purpetrater, !the spelling might be off, just like he was and still is.... My goal is to deal with this "victim" feeling for ever, but it will take much time and work, since I have been living in the pain of for ever and pretending that everything in my life is OK...but it's not. Take gental care of yourself and keep some distance from that person who violated your life.