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Aug 10, 2012, 03:35 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Honey, I have DEFINITELY been where you are. I didn't know what to do either. I was so LOST and undecided. I didn't know if I should stay or leave. I didn't know if it would get better or worse or stay the same. I was SOOOO verbally & emotionally abused that I couldn't even think straight! And he kept doing it, day after day. He let me know I was stupid, and he always said "why don't you use your head!!" He told me I was a bad mother!!! Of course he THOUGHT he was a good father, although he abused the children daily, including beating up my son!!!! 
I didn't know if I could support my kids. In fact I KNEW I couldn't support them. But the LAST TIME he told me I was a "bad mother" was the day I told him I wanted a divorce --- and shockingly he AGREED!!!!
But honey, I know what you're going thru and I know that my case is different from yours. Your husband is NOT going to change. Once they're abusive, they're just going to stay that way unless a miracle occurs. The abuse only gets worse until they start HITTING you, and they will. Don't expect him to get any better with therapy because he doesn't think he NEEDS it. He thinks YOU need it, probably. At least that's what MY ex thought. All the problems were caused by ME according to him. So you have to decide when you've had enough, and as far as I'm concerned, you've gone overboard in taking his bull. He's only going to pour it on heavier and heavier.
I wish you the very best my friend. My prayers are with you. God bless you sweetie, and please take care of YOU. Big hugs, Lee 
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