When my therapist had made a mistake, she always took responsibility for it. Sometimes through talking to her, I'd realise that it was me who made a mistake. Sometimes I'd assumed the worst of her when I shouldn't have. I think I've always survived it by being brave enough to go back, and say what I needed to say. Often I'd take writing in, so I wouldn't forget anything important. Usually I wrote it while my emotions were really high, so it was always really open and honest. I think the relationship came out better for it because my therapist stayed so solid and reliable and dependable even when I felt really upset about something she'd done. Often the situation was around feeling completely disregarded or forgotten, things that are very wounding for me. That's probably not very helpful advice. If I can remember anything more specific, I'll pass it on. I think my relationship is better because things aren't always smooth, but my therapist is still willing to work through it, listen to me, hear me, understand me.

Just Some - I do understand. I really do. I know when something feels awful like this it doesn't just go away or vanish. I know that I always need to actually talk to my therapist and get it all out there before I can move on. Until then it's like it just rattles around in your head and it's hard to move your thoughts to anything else. I understand putting yourself out there and not getting what you need back too. It's so hard to ask, and it is brave. You did the right thing to try, even though you haven't managed to sort this out. If your therapist is good, and from your posts it's always sounded like she is, she will help help you through this.

I think the reason I came out the other side of these things better is because my mind really ran away with me, and after talking to my therapist I realised nothing was as dire as I'd thought. Having that type of reaction must be because it touches on big wounds from the past. It's awful to feel like that, but I think for me it's the beginning of dealing with those awful big wounds, because there they are are, happening right there in the room...and they need to be dealt with to be healed.

Someone here posted this particular therapist's blog post before, and it's always made me think of that when I've felt this way. I think it nicely talks about the way that at some point your therapist will do that thing that really hurts you, whatever that thing is. It helped me to hear it said as it's written here. http://whatashrinkthinks.com/2011/06/13/enactment/