Dear desarie, I have had many losses from finding out that my now teenage Son and who is my only child, is mentaly disabled, which is a very big loss to a mother, to the loss of my husband. I am now remarried, but the grieving process must be delt with head on and the everyone grieves differently and most loved ones, do not want to face the P word "pain". I'ts inconvient, embarrasing at times, and well it just isn't fun. Yuk,! But the reason they all have vanished in their own way is for that reason, and you may want to talk about it and they may be avoiding you for that reason, you want to bring up the pain and deal with it, but unfortunatly they do not. Your doing the right thing, if you are dealing with your loss now and I hope you will find a greiving support group to do it in as well as reading books on "how to greive. IIt will be an ongoing process but in the long run it is well worth it .I hope you will one day be able to get the message through to them...The main thing is ..take good care, deedee1122